For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Ephesians 5:23-29)
Christ And Marriage
The wise man wrote long ago the making of many books there is no end and if time is taken to find books written on the home and family and especially the relationship of the husband and wife, endless volumes can be found. God created marriage and the home and if there is any information that needs to be learned it must be from His word. Nothing can compare to the wisdom of the one who created the relationship of marriage than how God describes the love between a man and woman. Contained within all of the passages on the home, an unusual series of admonitions are found for the husband and wife for an extraordinary source. Paul exhorts the saints at Ephesus to take a serious look at their marriages and uses Jesus Christ as an example for the conduct of the husband and the relationship of the wife. The reason this is unusual is that Jesus was never married but the emphasis specifically on the husband is to be like Christ in every way. Paul uses the character of the church and the authority of Christ to illustrate the nature of marriage with clear distinctions and obligations inherent in the command of God. Jesus is the head of the church and there is no doubt about that. All authority was given to Him as Lord and Christ. The church is the body of saints that have given their lives to serve the true and living God. Bound together in a bond of love, sacrifice and devotion, the church is in submission to the will of Christ. With this foundation, the apostle explains how the man is the head of the wife and the woman is in subjection to the man – like Christ is to the church.
If a man wants to learn how to be a husband he need look no further than the example of Jesus Christ. First he is the savior of the woman which means he will do everything in his power to take care of her. Jesus left heaven and came to earth to die for all men. His love was a sacrificial love without bounds. A husband should love his wife unconditionally with a sacrificial love that is willing to give his all for her. Often men want the woman to make them happy and complain because their needs are not being met. If Jesus would have come to earth with the attitude of these types of men no one would have been saved. Love in the home is not about the man it is about the will of God. Jesus died obeying the Father’s will. The husband will love his wife in a complete spirit to please the Lord. To love the wife is not a simple statement of endearment once expressed and seldom reminded. Husbands are to love their wives in the same manner Christ loved the church. The Son of God left the heavenly realm to give His life for the love of those who would be in His body, the church. Love is an active word expressed in many forms. There is a sense in which the love for wife is commanded by God of the husband. Jesus came to do the will of God but He did so because He loved all men. Every man must love their wife because God commands it but it must be tempered with the love one has for the Lord first and then to show that love to the wife. Women need to be shown and told how much the man loves her. Jesus was a man who died for the church. A man who loves God is a man who will give his life for the happiness of the woman. One important character of Christ’ love for the church is that man did not deserve His love – but by the grace of God received it from the Son. A man’s love for his wife is based on his love for God not his wife. He loves her because he loves God and shows her his love by setting her apart from all others and purifying his love for her every day.
Christ and marriage go hand in hand as He is the perfect example and pattern for a man to love his wife. Jesus died so that all men could live. He sacrificed everything for the love of those who did not love Him in return. His love was not in word alone but by His total life given to the will of the Father. Every man who wants to be the husband God wants him to be will examine closely the life of Jesus and see how the Lord patterned His love for the church. His mission was to present the church as a holy and unblemished bride. Husbands who love their wives will always present them to others as a holy and unblemished woman of character. The wife who is nurtured and cared for by a man who follows the example of Jesus will embrace the submission of love given by the one who serves the will of the Father. Husbands must love their wives as their own bodies and care for them exquisitely as designed by God in creation. Cherishing the wife is a blessing both for the man and the woman. The home will be blessed by God when the husband loves his wife like Christ loves the church.