The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. (Proverbs 14:1)
A Good Woman Builds A Good Home
The Bible is out of step with the modern world’s view of the home. Although not a novel or new idea, the freedom of the sexual revolution in the Sixties and Seventies was another recurring theme of how the home is attacked for the character of stability, direction, and godliness. Satan knows full well that in order to destroy a nation he must first undermine the home. To do this, he must change the view of the family hierarchy to become an expression of individual freedom where the children are taught to be entitled to whatever they desire, the man is considered an idiot incapable of accomplishing anything and the woman becomes the leader, head, and ruler of the family. Through the avenue of self-worth the role of the woman takes on greater meaning when she is occupied with the accomplishments of the business world as a leader in industry and community involvement to the extent she bears the children of the family but her role ends there of any significance. The home becomes a latch-key revolving door where children fend for themselves, husbands are considered second-citizens in the role of leadership and the woman is a success in every part of life but motherhood and her role as a wife. In time, the home deteriorates to a pile of rubble where factious individuals scream for their rights and the home is wrecked beyond repair. What could have been a home built by a godly woman to the glory of the heavenly Father is torn down by the hands of a foolish woman.
Roles are important in every part of life and none as transparent as the roles found in the home. When God created the world He established various laws that would govern the continued existence of what He created. The law of gravity is there for a purpose and when men deny the law they will suffer harm. This is easily understood in the material world that going against the established order of God’s creation will only bring about negative results. Nothing is more clear than seeing the role of the home and how each person is designed to fulfill their part. The wise man emphasizes the role of the woman in the home and the result of how she will either build the home for the glory of God or destroy the home because of her selfish refusal to follow the will of the Lord. There are two kinds of women in a home: a wise woman and a foolish woman. A wise woman knows her place in the role God has given her and accepts with humble submission how God has blessed her with building the home. The foolish woman will disregard the pattern formed of God and demand her rights in accord with her will. Wisdom does not come from the writings of men who seek to change the pattern of the home. In a world of social change where rights of men are more important than the word of God, women have been deceived into believing that success comes from Wall Street rather than Main Street. The home on Second Avenue in Main Street U. S. A. is where the character of godliness, holiness, truth, and righteousness are formed by a wise woman. Folly follows the footsteps of the foolish woman who tears her house down with her hands when she becomes liberated to leave the home and rule the world. Sadly, what she finds at the end of her journey is a home broken, dysfunctional and with little love.
Homes require building. They do not happen overnight and they are not built by ignoring the blueprint of the Creator. No greater glory can a woman find than when her heart and her love is in the home that she builds forged upon the pages of God’s word. She is the keeper of the light of truth in the home as she creates a world of safety in the bosom of the Lord. The Bible does not forbid a woman from working outside the home as later illustrated by the ‘worthy woman.’ However, the home is built by the wise woman who knows her role is to guide the spirit of the family to the gates of eternal life. Nothing matters for her family than the warmth of grace tendered by the hand of God in her heart as she shares that love with her husband and her children. Jeremy Taylor wrote, “A good wife is heaven’s last best gift to a man; his angel of mercy; minister of graces innumerable; his gem of many virtues; his casket of jewels; her voice, his sweetest music; her smiles, his brightest day; her kiss, the guardian of his innocence; her arms, the pale of his safety; the balm of his health, the balsam of his life; her industry, his surest wealth; her economy, his safest steward; her lips, his faithful counselors; her bosom, the softest pillow of his cares; and her prayers, the ablest advocates of heaven’s blessings on his head.”