Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. (Colossians 3:12-17)
How To Have An Elect Marriage
Vance Havner said, “Christians are defeated in daily living because they have fought the devil with the weapons of earth: their own resources, will power, and moral stamina.” Marriages struggle and are empty because couples try to solve their problems with their own resources, will power and moral stamina. When the Lord gave His word to the people, it was an all-purpose design that applied to every part of life. The applications that are enforced for day to day living are very important to mold into the fabric of the relationship of a husband and wife. Many passages do not speak directly to the character of marriage but the principles are absolute in their teachings of how the husband and wife are to regard one another. This is especially true of marriages that are built upon the gospel of Jesus Christ. These marriages are unions of the elect.
It is very special to be called the elect of God. There is a distinct calling Christian’s share with the Father as they are holy people and called His beloved. The strength of a marriage will increase greatly when we see the application of the elect of God to the union of hearts formed in marriage. Building the relationship of a husband and wife upon the teachings of Christ reinforce the individual characteristics of the person to teachings of righteousness. Marriage is designed to bring the utmost happiness to the man and woman. This can only be done when men follow the design given by the Lord.
A marriage is what God intended when there are tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness and longsuffering. Husbands and wives should strive every day to exercise a tender spirit toward one another and to express through words and actions a kind spirit. Love should not wane in the years of marriage but grow deeper. Doing kind things for one another solidifies the feelings of mutual love. A humble heart realizes the true love comes through sacrificing offerings of love for the other person. Husbands must put on the mantle of humility as leaders of the home. Submission is best suited from wives who humbly follow the leadership of the husband. Meekness is not weakness but strength. Having a meek spirit will temper disputes and arguments. Bearing with one another is not only an important mark for the Christian but especially for the marriage. The husband is no more perfect than the wife. Faults can and will be found on both sides. Mistakes will be made. Having a spirit of longsuffering will seek the welfare of the other.
One of the most important parts of marriage is the act of forgiveness. We cannot receive forgiveness from God if we are unwilling to forgive others. In the marriage bond there will be times that it does not matter who is right or wrong but a spirit of forgiveness will determine our relationship with the Father. Without forgiving our husband or wife we will not stand whole in the sight of God. Christ died to create an elect people that know the power of forgiveness. Paul says we must forgive. In the marriage union forgiveness is a requirement not an option. It will create a happy and beautiful atmosphere of love when we love one another so much to forgive one another.
Love should be the prominent factor in our marriage. We made a covenant with God when we said our vows and His peace should rule our hearts in our love for one another. The reasons marriages are filled with disharmony is a lack of God’s word. Letting the word of Christ dwell in our hearts as husbands and wives will give us to tools to build a loving, lasting and eternal marriage. Everything done in the marriage is done in accordance with the name of Jesus Christ, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. If the Lord God is not the center of the marriage universe there will be failure. The elect of God have different marriages than the world. Our love for one another is greater than the love of those in the world because our marriage is built on holiness. The true relationship of the beloved is found in the Lord.