But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. (Ephesians 5:3-6)
Premarital Sex And The Christian
The societal norms of any generation have never determined what is right and wrong. Morality is not something governed by the whims of man because what may be considered morally unconscionable in one generation will be accepted by another generation. Character can never be formed by the establishment of society rules as these rules change from time to time as people change and accept what was once unacceptable. Right and wrong is determined by the one who has the right to establish the law of righteousness and unrighteousness. The word of God has always given man direction in the area of morality dictating what is acceptable and unacceptable. Through time eternal the law of God has remained unchanged in its principle nature of good and evil. One such norm is the increasing acceptance of pre-marital sex. What is concerning is the willing acceptance of fornication among the children of God. Those who profess to be Christian’s engage in sexual liaisons outside of marriage with little guilt or shame. In some cases congregations of the Lord’s kingdom ignore or treat with little concern those who live in such a manner. This would include those who engage in fornication on a frequent basis and sometimes just the casual occurrences through dating or pre-marital engagements where couples believe they have a right to sex before marriage. In either case – fornication is sin – and sin without repentance will destroy eternal life.
Premarital sex is one of the most common problems young and old face. It is exciting, fun and momentarily rewarding. However, the Lawgiver has said that sexual relations outside of marriage is wickedness and will bring about His wrath on those who trifle with His law. Saints of God should not be known for their promiscuity. Young women should be examples of purity in the manner of the dress (the clothes they wear), their speech (the words they use) and their attitudes (the manner of their heart). This is especially true of young men who must be men of God (the character of their heart) who act in a godly manner (the example they give) as they interact with young ladies. Parents must teach their children the need for purity with no suggestions of acceptability in the matter of premarital sex. When fathers and mothers condone their children’s actions as “being young” they prepare their children for an eternity in hell. Fornication should not be named among those who profess to be Christian’s. The law of God on fornication is not given because of health reasons, psychological reasons or societal pleasures for a happy marriage. Premarital sex is a sin because God said it was. There will be regrets when this law is ignored. It will impact lives for many years that sometimes can and never heal. Godliness is profitable for this life because it leads the heart toward purity and lessens the regrets of life.
One of the deceptions of fornication is the belief that if no one knows it happened it will be okay. Sometimes this becomes evident with a pregnancy but more often than not it goes undiscovered. The apostle warns against the smug feeling of hiding the sin of fornication by reminding disciples of Christ not to be deceived by empty words. The wrath of God will come upon all those who practice disobedience. Premarital sex may never be known by those on earth but the Father above is fully aware of time, place and whom. David tried to hide his sin but God knew everything. Young and old must be warned that fornication may happen in the dark but to the Lord God all things are done in the day. His wrath will come upon those who engage in premarital sex and fail to seek repentance and stop their ungodliness. There are many blessings in waiting for marriage. The conjugal blessings found in the marriage bed will bring great happiness, joy and fulfillment when the word of God is followed. As Creator, the Lord designed the home to be founded upon the purity of its relationships given by one man and one woman to each other. As people of God, fornication should never be named. Live pure. Live holy. Serve God.